Boniface Thomas Patcha

My dear husband, your passing to eternity has left me confused. I keep asking myself if it is real. I cannot believe how fast you departed from us. Every time you got sick, you would recover just as quickly, but this time around, in your sickness, God chose to keep you. In fact, I feel like you have left me in the middle of the sea. Throughout our life together, you spoilt me by doing everything for me, and sometimes, you would take action even before making me aware of the situation. You treated me like a queen, never wanted me to hurt or feel stressed. Boni what will happen to me now that you have left me? I really am lost. You were a good loving and understanding husband. You were a father to all, and no matter where they came from, you took them as your own children, and you were able to guide and help each of them stand on their feet. Indeed your reward will be greater in heaven than it was on earth. So, I believe that is why God called you to be with Him; so that with Him, you will be able to do greater things. Boni my dearest, I can only say I love you, we all love you and will miss you, but God loves you best. Good bye my husband. We shall meet to part no more. Rest in peace my dear.

My "Cucu, "My Face", nothing in this world would have ever prepared me for this day. Did this really happen? It's day 19 today and I am still waiting to be awakened from this nightmare. Life without you Daddy?? I am yet to imagine and live it. You have always been around, through every milestone in our lives. I started feeling your absence when on my birthday, I did not get a call nor see an email from btpatcha@yahoo.com. That was because Jan 13th was the day your sickness all started. It was the beginning of the end of your journey here with us. Cucu, the thought of you gone is unbearable. I have wept until I have no more tears to shed. My heart feels heavy yet at peace because I know you will continue to watch over us. Knowing the kind of person you are, I can imagine you with your notepad, waiting outside to see God, same time everyday with a long list of pleas for all your children and family members. I can imagine it getting to a point where God will ask "but wait a minute, how many children and family members do you have?" to the point where God, probably fed up with your persistence, will grant all that you're asking. For that was the kind of person you were. I will forever smile because of the countless memories you left behind. I will miss you but I must find the strength to let go so that you too can be at peace where you are. Larissa Dorobucci misses you so much and so does JJ Mr. Taliban. They say grandpa is already in heaven and I believe so too. So My Cucu, may you rest in heavenly peace! I love you. 

Grandpa it's Larissa Dorrobucci and JJ Taliban. We will miss you so much. We will miss playing with you and putting toys on your head. We know you are with God in heaven. My first grade teacher said  if we see a special bird in the sky, it's you watching over us. We love you Grandpa. 

My dear daddy, your passing is deeply painful and surreal to me. I can’t believe I have to refer to you in past tense. God! Please help me. Throughout my life, I have seen you be a devoted husband, an honorable and hardworking man. You provided for us as best you could. You were all about discipline and as kids, even though we were thorough and perfect accomplices to each another, you were always a step ahead of us. You would sneak up on us when we least expected hence your nickname “Ninja”.  We were amazed at how much you loved to write. Your books were filled with detailed notes on birthdays, anniversaries and events of all who were dear to you. We could rely on you for any information because we knew you would have written it down somewhere in one of your books. I remember some years back in Maryland when I approached you about calling me “Mamie”.  Daddy you were really good at shouting it out even in public, and I would think how embarrassing for an old woman like me whose dad still calls her by her pet name.  With a serious face, you looked at me from the top of your glasses and said whether I liked it or not you will call me “Mamie” because I am named after you mother and out of respect for her, there is no way you will ever refer to me as Francisca. So no matter where and how “Mamie” comes out, I will just have to deal with it. That was the end of our conversation. Daddy I will remember our jokes, your laughter, you practicing to get your MD driver’s license, our conversations, you on the eve of my graduation, telling my friends and I how you choose to see only what you choose to see because of the way we were dressed. You yelling at us because we were always running late for events when all you wanted was to be on time.  All the memories we have built together, I will cherish them deeply. I only hope that as time goes by, this emptiness and sadness I feel will mostly be replaced with joy. Daddy being as dependent as we were on you, there was no way you could have prepared us for your passing. So though it hurts a lot, I understand why you left us so abruptly. I hope and pray that you are resting in peace with our Lord. Salute all our dearly departed ones. I pray as  you watch over us, you will also intercede for us. Although I love and will miss you dearly, I also know that God loves you more and now is his time to spend with you. So bye-bye daddy, until we meet again.

I am sad that I won't hear you call me "Lady Ledell" anymore, and wake me up at 8am on weekends to make eggs for you. I will cherish those moments forever. Grandpa please watch over me from heaven. I hope to meet you there someday. I love you and I miss you. Most importantly, I will never forget you.
Rest In Peace grandpa.

Ledell Patcha aka "Lady Ledell"

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For as long as I have known him, I have had nothing but fond memories with my grandpa. We did so much together. When I was sad, he cheered me up. When I was having trouble with my home work, he was always happy to help. When I got news of grandpa's passing, I couldn't believe it, because I always thought that he will always be there. How can grandpa die? No way, impossible I thought to myself. But gradually I have come to accept the sad truth. But in my heart, he will always be with me and I know he is watching over me from Heaven.
Rest In Peace grandpa.

I love you forever,

Nevan Patcha

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Dear grandpa,
I am sorry and sad that you passed away. You were my best grand pa and now you have gone away forever. I miss you a lot grandpa. You cannot call me coconut now because you are gone. You cannot talk to me anymore. You cannot see me again. I miss your smile. I love you grandpa.
Your "Coconut",

Kellan Patcha